Comments on: Male Midwife says Women should “Toughen Up” http://www.newageretromum.com/pregnancy-and-birth/male-midwife-says-women-should-%e2%80%9ctoughen-up%e2%80%9d Alternate Lifestyle Choices Sun, 04 Jul 2010 08:54:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: MM http://www.newageretromum.com/pregnancy-and-birth/male-midwife-says-women-should-%e2%80%9ctoughen-up%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1#comment-38 MM Mon, 05 Oct 2009 21:50:58 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=152#comment-38 Hey Helena.. Great pst babe! Thought id add my 2 cents.. I chose to have my son at the local hospital. under the care of midwives, so i didnt see any OB's.. just midwives.. When i got 40 weeks.. i was told they would induce me at 40 + 10 days... thats all they allow you to go over. At this time i was more than happy to be induced.. Being my son was a IVFmiracle.. i was desprate to meet him.. and i had tried EVERY Natural inducing thing POSSIBLE!! I was induced on a sunday arvo with the gels.. and by 12 am the next day, was being put onto the Synotonin drip to "keep things moving" .. Synotonin gets things going.. but makes u dialte slower... So after 12 hrs of labour.. i opted for a epidural... I was soo exhausted.. and needed a break. In the end ( only 2 rs after epi) i had a episiotomy and a vaccum extraction.. and my son was here.. I dont feel scared by his birth.. i dont feel i "failed" becaue i had the epi.. i stll gave birth.. regardless of how it happened.. I bonded with my son straight away.. and to this day, is the proudest day of my life.. In saying that.. If and when we choose to have another baby, i wont be induced,, i will choose to go into labour naturally.. even if this means i bath in clary sage for a week.. l will still have my baby at the birth clinic... and will have the option of a epi.. My choice to have the epi wasnt to "dull the pain".. i actually loved the whole labour process.. and i believe that if i wasnt put on the drip, i would have been able to birth Zeth myself.. with out need of the epi.. I believe child birth is a personal thing and should be left for the woman to decide.. if birthing on your head is your thing... go for gold.. But woman shouldnt be made to feel like a faliure becasue they choose it.. as for the mid wife.. well.. hes intitled to his opinion.. but i think alot of woman will not see things his way! Hey Helena..
Great pst babe! Thought id add my 2 cents..

I chose to have my son at the local hospital. under the care of midwives, so i didnt see any OB’s.. just midwives..
When i got 40 weeks.. i was told they would induce me at 40 + 10 days… thats all they allow you to go over. At this time i was more than happy to be induced.. Being my son was a IVFmiracle.. i was desprate to meet him.. and i had tried EVERY Natural inducing thing POSSIBLE!!

I was induced on a sunday arvo with the gels.. and by 12 am the next day, was being put onto the Synotonin drip to “keep things moving” .. Synotonin gets things going.. but makes u dialte slower…
So after 12 hrs of labour.. i opted for a epidural… I was soo exhausted.. and needed a break.
In the end ( only 2 rs after epi) i had a episiotomy and a vaccum extraction.. and my son was here..

I dont feel scared by his birth.. i dont feel i “failed” becaue i had the epi.. i stll gave birth.. regardless of how it happened.. I bonded with my son straight away.. and to this day, is the proudest day of my life..

In saying that.. If and when we choose to have another baby, i wont be induced,, i will choose to go into labour naturally.. even if this means i bath in clary sage for a week.. l will still have my baby at the birth clinic… and will have the option of a epi..

My choice to have the epi wasnt to “dull the pain”.. i actually loved the whole labour process.. and i believe that if i wasnt put on the drip, i would have been able to birth Zeth myself.. with out need of the epi..
I believe child birth is a personal thing and should be left for the woman to decide.. if birthing on your head is your thing… go for gold..
But woman shouldnt be made to feel like a faliure becasue they choose it..

as for the mid wife.. well.. hes intitled to his opinion.. but i think alot of woman will not see things his way!

]]> By: Helena http://www.newageretromum.com/pregnancy-and-birth/male-midwife-says-women-should-%e2%80%9ctoughen-up%e2%80%9d/comment-page-#comment-37 Helena Sun, 02 Aug 2009 01:19:11 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=152#comment-37 Thankyou for visiting - you have a lot of excellent information on your blog - very straight and to the point. And thankyou for your kind thoughts about my little girl. While it still is painful on days to talk about her, it really was our experience with her that pushed us onto this path to find alternate ways of living life rather than just the mainstream, socially acceptable path. Helena :) Thankyou for visiting – you have a lot of excellent information on your blog – very straight and to the point.
And thankyou for your kind thoughts about my little girl. While it still is painful on days to talk about her, it really was our experience with her that pushed us onto this path to find alternate ways of living life rather than just the mainstream, socially acceptable path.

Helena :)

]]> By: Helena http://www.newageretromum.com/pregnancy-and-birth/male-midwife-says-women-should-%e2%80%9ctoughen-up%e2%80%9d/comment-page-#comment-35 Helena Sun, 02 Aug 2009 00:55:25 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=152#comment-35 Hi Bernie, It's funny that you noticed that the drip which is meant to speed things up actually makes you dilate slower. I was induced with Isabella & I think had I not had that induction, I also wouldn't have needed the epidural. It does show that once the doctors start fiddling with things it leads to more things that need to be fiddled with. I think it's great to have the technological tools there to help in emergencies (how awful would it be if you had to have a caesarian and there was no epidural available?), but I think what more and more midwives are recommending is that you try to keep the intervention to a minimum to avoid having too many things done that could have a negative impact. Helena :) Hi Bernie,
It’s funny that you noticed that the drip which is meant to speed things up actually makes you dilate slower.
I was induced with Isabella & I think had I not had that induction, I also wouldn’t have needed the epidural.
It does show that once the doctors start fiddling with things it leads to more things that need to be fiddled with.

I think it’s great to have the technological tools there to help in emergencies (how awful would it be if you had to have a caesarian and there was no epidural available?), but I think what more and more midwives are recommending is that you try to keep the intervention to a minimum to avoid having too many things done that could have a negative impact.

Helena :)

]]> By: Bernie http://www.newageretromum.com/pregnancy-and-birth/male-midwife-says-women-should-%e2%80%9ctoughen-up%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1#comment-36 Bernie Sat, 01 Aug 2009 23:11:52 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=152#comment-36 Hey Helena.. Great pst babe! Thought id add my 2 cents.. I chose to have my son at the local hospital. under the care of midwives, so i didnt see any OB's.. just midwives.. When i got 40 weeks.. i was told they would induce me at 40 + 10 days... thats all they allow you to go over. At this time i was more than happy to be induced.. Being my son was a IVFmiracle.. i was desprate to meet him.. and i had tried EVERY Natural inducing thing POSSIBLE!! I was induced on a sunday arvo with the gels.. and by 12 am the next day, was being put onto the Synotonin drip to "keep things moving" .. Synotonin gets things going.. but makes u dialte slower... So after 12 hrs of labour.. i opted for a epidural... I was soo exhausted.. and needed a break. In the end ( only 2 rs after epi) i had a episiotomy and a vaccum extraction.. and my son was here.. I dont feel scared by his birth.. i dont feel i "failed" becaue i had the epi.. i stll gave birth.. regardless of how it happened.. I bonded with my son straight away.. and to this day, is the proudest day of my life.. In saying that.. If and when we choose to have another baby, i wont be induced,, i will choose to go into labour naturally.. even if this means i bath in clary sage for a week.. l will still have my baby at the birth clinic... and will have the option of a epi.. My choice to have the epi wasnt to "dull the pain".. i actually loved the whole labour process.. and i believe that if i wasnt put on the drip, i would have been able to birth Zeth myself.. with out need of the epi.. I believe child birth is a personal thing and should be left for the woman to decide.. if birthing on your head is your thing... go for gold.. But woman shouldnt be made to feel like a faliure becasue they choose it.. as for the mid wife.. well.. hes intitled to his opinion.. but i think alot of woman will not see things his way! Hey Helena..
Great pst babe! Thought id add my 2 cents..

I chose to have my son at the local hospital. under the care of midwives, so i didnt see any OB’s.. just midwives..
When i got 40 weeks.. i was told they would induce me at 40 + 10 days… thats all they allow you to go over. At this time i was more than happy to be induced.. Being my son was a IVFmiracle.. i was desprate to meet him.. and i had tried EVERY Natural inducing thing POSSIBLE!!

I was induced on a sunday arvo with the gels.. and by 12 am the next day, was being put onto the Synotonin drip to “keep things moving” .. Synotonin gets things going.. but makes u dialte slower…
So after 12 hrs of labour.. i opted for a epidural… I was soo exhausted.. and needed a break.
In the end ( only 2 rs after epi) i had a episiotomy and a vaccum extraction.. and my son was here..

I dont feel scared by his birth.. i dont feel i “failed” becaue i had the epi.. i stll gave birth.. regardless of how it happened.. I bonded with my son straight away.. and to this day, is the proudest day of my life..

In saying that.. If and when we choose to have another baby, i wont be induced,, i will choose to go into labour naturally.. even if this means i bath in clary sage for a week.. l will still have my baby at the birth clinic… and will have the option of a epi..

My choice to have the epi wasnt to “dull the pain”.. i actually loved the whole labour process.. and i believe that if i wasnt put on the drip, i would have been able to birth Zeth myself.. with out need of the epi..
I believe child birth is a personal thing and should be left for the woman to decide.. if birthing on your head is your thing… go for gold..
But woman shouldnt be made to feel like a faliure becasue they choose it..

as for the mid wife.. well.. hes intitled to his opinion.. but i think alot of woman will not see things his way!

]]> By: Midwife Muse http://www.newageretromum.com/pregnancy-and-birth/male-midwife-says-women-should-%e2%80%9ctoughen-up%e2%80%9d/comment-page-1#comment-34 Midwife Muse Thu, 23 Jul 2009 11:12:48 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=152#comment-34 Wonderful perspective on the thorny subject of pain relief in labour. Awful to read that you had a little one who died. I have no words sufficient to convey my sympathy. x .-= Midwife Muse´s last blog ..<a href="http://midwifemuse.wordpress.com/2009/07/21/the-long-goodbye/" rel="nofollow">The long goodbye</a> =-. Wonderful perspective on the thorny subject of pain relief in labour.
Awful to read that you had a little one who died. I have no words sufficient to convey my sympathy. x
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