Comments on: Should Both Parents be at Home? http://www.newageretromum.com/parenting/should-both-parents-be-at-home Alternate Lifestyle Choices Sun, 08 Jan 2012 02:57:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jacinda http://www.newageretromum.com/parenting/should-both-parents-be-at-home/comment-page-1#comment-185 Jacinda Wed, 01 Jun 2011 11:08:31 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=132#comment-185 Hi Helena, So glad to read an article like this. I am currently a stay-at-home mum with my first baby who is a boy of 7 1/2 months. My partner is an apprentice chef who works atleast 40 hours a week, day and night. I feel like I never get to see him and my parents can only rarely babysit so it makes me feel very unsupported and bored and sometimes I don't know how to cope. I adore my son, but sometimes the lack of freedom and change in my life makes me feel like I begin to resent him and I don't like it. I know my partner also misses us and feels guilty that I am often very unhappy. I like your ideas of having both parents stay at home, but I know my partner wants to be a chef and I am studying to be a teacher. Anyway, this article has given me hope because it makes me realise that maybe we can both work/study part time and stay home. Why does work have to be full time? I think that it is not always easy to find a job which can allow you to work from home and maybe it's impossible for all parents in society to work at home, but what if society changed so that instead of one parent working full-time and one staying at home, both work part-time (hopefully doing what fulfills them careerwise) and stay at home part-time as well. Technically it should still be the same amount of work time provided to the community. Do you think society could ever evolve in the future to allow for this? Please feel free to email me a reply, I'd love to hear from you. =) Hi Helena,

So glad to read an article like this. I am currently a stay-at-home mum with my first baby who is a boy of 7 1/2 months. My partner is an apprentice chef who works atleast 40 hours a week, day and night. I feel like I never get to see him and my parents can only rarely babysit so it makes me feel very unsupported and bored and sometimes I don’t know how to cope. I adore my son, but sometimes the lack of freedom and change in my life makes me feel like I begin to resent him and I don’t like it. I know my partner also misses us and feels guilty that I am often very unhappy.

I like your ideas of having both parents stay at home, but I know my partner wants to be a chef and I am studying to be a teacher. Anyway, this article has given me hope because it makes me realise that maybe we can both work/study part time and stay home. Why does work have to be full time?

I think that it is not always easy to find a job which can allow you to work from home and maybe it’s impossible for all parents in society to work at home, but what if society changed so that instead of one parent working full-time and one staying at home, both work part-time (hopefully doing what fulfills them careerwise) and stay at home part-time as well. Technically it should still be the same amount of work time provided to the community. Do you think society could ever evolve in the future to allow for this?

Please feel free to email me a reply, I’d love to hear from you. =)

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]]> By: Kellie http://www.newageretromum.com/parenting/should-both-parents-be-at-home/comment-page-1#comment-169 Kellie Wed, 16 Mar 2011 04:17:49 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=132#comment-169 In an ideal world..... I'd love it if both my hubby and I could work from home. We both work in newspapers and can actually see a point in the future where it will be more economical for companies to have their employees work from home. With homes already setup with laptops and wifi, it's not out of the question. How far into the future, I don't know. But I'm waiting for that day..... :) In an ideal world….. I’d love it if both my hubby and I could work from home. We both work in newspapers and can actually see a point in the future where it will be more economical for companies to have their employees work from home. With homes already setup with laptops and wifi, it’s not out of the question. How far into the future, I don’t know. But I’m waiting for that day….. :)

]]> By: Sarah http://www.newageretromum.com/parenting/should-both-parents-be-at-home/comment-page-1#comment-160 Sarah Wed, 16 Feb 2011 05:15:41 +0000 http://newageretromum.com/?p=132#comment-160 I am an unmarried woman who is just thinking about the future. I would love, love, love this scenario. Both work from home, and raise the kids together. When one has to go out for a little bit, we can just tell the kids "They have to do some work outside the home". I know this can't always be the case, but it could work on occasion. If one of us have to work, I want the other one to stay home and be with the kids. I just don't want it to be ALL the woman's job. My church teaches that, and as much as I love women getting attention for doing something wonderful. I want the men to share the work and the child rearing years. It used to be this way and in agricultural societies it still is this way, that both parents are home, and working at the same time. I looked all over the web for something like this. I found a site for Stay at home parents and a site stay at home dads. In my case all I would want is to make sure that this is talked about thoroughly and that things are arranged so that the Kids have a chance to play with other kids, and learn how to entertain themselves, but still be around Mommy and Daddy. This is my biggest wish of all. I remember watching an HGTV episode where there where two work at home stay at home parents, this couple had a one year old son, and they ran a non-profit together, an exercise program for struggling youth. Though they where getting an office space over haul, I didn't care much about that, only that this is what I want. And that has stuck with me ever since I watched the episode 4 years ago. Thank you for this post. I hope this becomes a reality soon so that Families can be stronger because I believe families are the bedrock of society. We build strong societies in the walls of our own home. I am an unmarried woman who is just thinking about the future. I would love, love, love this scenario. Both work from home, and raise the kids together. When one has to go out for a little bit, we can just tell the kids “They have to do some work outside the home”. I know this can’t always be the case, but it could work on occasion. If one of us have to work, I want the other one to stay home and be with the kids. I just don’t want it to be ALL the woman’s job. My church teaches that, and as much as I love women getting attention for doing something wonderful. I want the men to share the work and the child rearing years. It used to be this way and in agricultural societies it still is this way, that both parents are home, and working at the same time. I looked all over the web for something like this. I found a site for Stay at home parents and a site stay at home dads. In my case all I would want is to make sure that this is talked about thoroughly and that things are arranged so that the Kids have a chance to play with other kids, and learn how to entertain themselves, but still be around Mommy and Daddy. This is my biggest wish of all. I remember watching an HGTV episode where there where two work at home stay at home parents, this couple had a one year old son, and they ran a non-profit together, an exercise program for struggling youth. Though they where getting an office space over haul, I didn’t care much about that, only that this is what I want. And that has stuck with me ever since I watched the episode 4 years ago.

Thank you for this post. I hope this becomes a reality soon so that Families can be stronger because I believe families are the bedrock of society. We build strong societies in the walls of our own home.

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