Every day for me is a new day to aim for reaching that much sought after balance between being a great Mum and wife and fulfilling my own needs for self expression and achievement.
Unlike other bloggers who seem to be able to maintain the discipline of writing articles (even multiple articles) every day, my writing seems to be much more sporadic – I prefer to write when the desire hits and something spurs me to share my opinions. Unfortunately more often than not, the inspiration passes by as I’m entertained by my little boy and his funny daily antics and the day is swallowed in what seems to be the blink of an eye.
I so much want to be the perfect mum – doesn’t every mum? I’m wondering though if this desire for (my idea of) perfection will be a lifelong pursuit, two steps forward, one step back?
In my mind, perfect looks like:
- Awake at whatever time I’m naturally awoken and feeling refreshed and ready to go after a full night’s sleep
- A healthy, happy family
- Healthy, nutritious and satisfying eating for all the family every single day
- A thirty minute walk everyday
- Playtime at the park out in the fresh air and sunshine
- Free time to hang out with my little boy and do as we please
- A two hour afternoon nap for my little boy so I can either write articles or create websites
- Daily meditation
- Strength and Interval training three times a week
- Two dedicated half days per week to work (although writing and creating websites doesn’t feel like work)
- Weekly massage
- Some quality time with my husband
- Living in my own beautiful home
- Successfully running my own business
- Everything under control and when it’s not, being able to “go with the flow”
This is my current aim point – a broad overview of what I’d like my life to be like – and on some days I can check off more boxes than others.
What I’m finding though, is that the days I try to push consciously to achieve as much as I can, I often feel great frustration regardless of how much I achieve – the “To Do’s” ticked off are never enough. Whereas on the days where I resign myself to just “going with the flow”, I feel happy and content regardless of how much or how little I have achieved in that day.
I much prefer that happy and content person than the frustrated, grumpy one (& I know my husband definitely prefers the happy content me) so perhaps it’s time to let go of what I think other people think I should be doing (yes I really do care too much about what others think of me) and do what fills me with joy and let that joy ripple out to those around me.
I’d really like to hear how you balance being a Mum and being just you – sharing of hints and tips is always greatly appreciated